As a makeup artist I meet many women who have been engaged for a couple of months. Many of the conversations I’ve had with them are about being engaged and about some of the experiences they’ve had leading up to the wedding. If you’ve recently gotten engaged, CONGRATULATIONS!! Here is some advice from me to you:
Besides the fact that you won’t be able to stop staring at your hand and the fact that you’ll probably have to share your engagement story a million times, there are a few things that you won’t know until this day comes. Some of the advice that I am about to share is purely from personal experience but also things that I wish people would’ve shared with me.
1. Your first instinct will be to start planning your wedding straight away. Your dreams will be filled with all things ‘wedding’ and your every thought becomes saturated with minor details of your day. This is completely NORMAL, however when I look back I wish I would’ve slowed down just a little and absorbed a bit more in the beginning stages of our engagement.
2. Family members are ALWAYS the first to put pressure on you, with questions and phrases like:
“Have you set a date yet?”
“Where are you getting married?”
“So-and-so can’t make it so you have to change the date.”
It is SO easy to let people stress you out during the ‘engagement phase’. DON’T LET THEM!!!
3. Not everyone will be happy for you. As hard as this is to believe, take this as it comes and don’t let it affect this happy phase of your life. A not-so-positive reaction from someone else is a reflection of that person and not on you or your fiancé. Try to take it with a pinch of salt. Easier said than done, I know.
4. Someone once gave me the best advice, she said that no-one will ever care as much about your wedding as you do. She meant this not in a negative way but now I understand what she meant when she said this to me – Expectations are only as high as YOU make them so don’t put unnecessary pressure on yourself.
5. Number 4 relates to friends as well – Lean on the people who truly have the best intentions for you.
6. Conversations will always be flooded with ‘bridal talk’. Just remember that this doesn’t always have to be the case. Friends and Family also have a life outside of your wedding. Ask THEM how they are doing!
7. There will always be that one family member that will take things into their own hands or make your wedding about themselves. My theory is that it needn’t be about them, nor is it their wedding, it is YOURS! Weddings are a celebration with people that you KNOW and LOVE. If they are not willing to respect your decisions then maybe you both need to assess the relationship you have with one another.
8. Be prepared to say NO!!! There is absolutely no need for an explanation.
9. Talk to your fiancé’ … a lot. Nine times out of ten, he’s probably sick of hearing the word ‘wedding’ but he is there for you to lean on. Also, ask him for HIS opinion, after all it is not only your wedding.
10. Take each day as it comes. As cliche’ as it may sound there will be good days and there will be bad days, but what’s important is that these days will be spent with the person that you will cherish forever. So make them count!